Five Easy Steps to Move Through Crippling Fear

Overcoming fears and facing situations which appear daunting can be one of the most challenging areas in a person’s life. As we have previously discussed, all people will feel a surge of adrenalin when facing a new area, which as we now know is a part of the human make-up. The adrenalin is there (as we covered in day 2) to help a person become more ‘switched on’ if there was any danger whilst on route to their goal. Facing a fear is entirely the person’s prerogative, and anyone who chooses to face their fears must also be prepared to deal with and accept the consequences as a result of their actions.

The big push

A very old school method of teaching children how to overcome their fear of deep water was to take them to the deepest part of the pool and throw them in with or without their consent. The teacher would then believe that this would be an ‘instant’ cure to the child’s phobia. If the child did respond well to this method, that was good. However, the flip side to this method is that it can send the child back even further to create a deeper fear than before as it may overpower the individual and reverse all the previous successes.

Little steps = huge leaps

When facing a fear, to some people it can almost appear to grow in size and ferocity. Facing a grumpy boss may bring fears of losing a job or even being physically attacked. This may never happen but a fearful mind may not be logical in its thoughts. So the exercise in today’s programme is regarding a gradual exposure to a fear, thereby facing the intimidation in small manageable steps. The whole fear may overwhelm a person instantly, but facing one part of that fear on its own can (in many cases) be easier to handle.

There is less risk of being overpowered if a fear is challenged in small manageable steps.

The Fear Ladder

Get a piece of paper and draw a ladder

Each ladder has seven steps into which the main fear has been sectioned, and each is one move closer to overcoming the whole fear.

Guidelines

1. Write in the top ‘step’ the fear you wish to overcome.

2. Write in the lowest step, one step you could take to move forward today.

3. In step 2 write the next action you could take to move forward after

step 1.

4. In step 3 write the next action you could take to move forward after

step 2.

5. Then repeat up to the top step.

If you do not feel comfortable taking the steps, you may wish to add more steps or reduce the size of the goal.

Feel free to do this as often as you can with all the fears and step by step release them all.

The author of this Article is a Paul Ryder who is a UK based emotional intelligence, coach, personal trainer and author. Paul is the director of Future Mind Training and has been studying his field for over 17 years. After working through challenges of depression, from bullying and abuse he now trains teachers, company directors and leading sports people to reach their true potential.

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