Do You Feel Lonely?

Somewhere recently I read, "if you want to get love you need to give love".

So, it follows that, if you are lonely you need to give your company to other people. I think this is true, we all live in a very busy world, and if you don’t get out there no one is going to come and find you – unless you invite them, and that is offering to share your company, isn’t it?

Try some or all of the following – yes, it will be hard, especially if you are shy as well as lonely, but you came here looking for something to help you make a difference, so here you go…. The longest journey begins with one step.

• Live your life to the full, make the most of everyday, find something to be grateful for. Take a look around there is always going to be someone who is worse off than you are, be grateful you are not them.
• Look around and get interested in what is happening around you, get involved, join your social club at work, volunteer with the Salvation Army, offer to help clean kennels at the local animal rescue centre.
• Learn to like people, truly, we are all very good at being critical, try finding something to like in every person you come in contact with, they will respond well to your positive attitude.
• Give something of yourself every day, help someone every day, if you can’t do it in person make a donation to your favourite charity.
• Go along to your local Elderly People’s Rest-home, offer to read the newspaper for someone with failing sight.
• Offer to do baby-sitting for people you know, or put a note up in your local super-market.
• Get an evening job, in a sports centre or café / bar.
• Decide to live your life fully, don’t sit around waiting for something to happen – get busy and do something.
• Go on holiday with an organised tour, there are lots of interest groups that go on trips together, a great way to get to know people over a 2 week period.
• Choose your goals and stick to them, write them down, put them on the calendar and when you have achieved hem give yourself a reward – take your self out for a treat, you are sure to meet someone along the way to chat to, to help, to admire……

Most people are friendly and they certainly appreciate attention and interest in themselves. Don’t worry about what you will say, just ask people about themselves and then listen.

This article is from Mary Moir M.Ed., Yemanya Coaching http://www.yemanyacoaching.com Yemanya Coaching has been designed by Mary to give you access to tried and tested strategies that will give you more fun, more success and more control of your life. Look out for articles from Yemanya Coaching on Relationship Advice and Parenting.

Mary has many years experience working with families and young people coping with severe behaviour problems and Autism Spectrum Disorders. Couples and family relationships as well as confidence and self esteem are put under great stress when a family is trying to raise a child or children with severe behaviour and communication issues. Solution Focused Coaching gets to the heart of the matter and helps you put strategies in place to make the life you want.

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